Signs That My Priorities are Out Of Whack

I am listening to Living On The Edge’s teaching, Balancing Life’s Demands, again.

Chip Ingram touched on the six symptoms that your priorities might be out of whack. He really hit the nail on the head and, unfortunately, he described me to a ‘T’.

  1. Busyness. Goodness, yes. But…here is the key. I am always busy, but my life is barren of fruit. There is stuff everywhere. Things that I am going to get to, but simply haven’t yet.
  2. Emotional stress and pressure. Anxiety. Uptight all the time. Headaches. Restless. Racing thoughts. This, too, is so me. I am currently taking a prescription for Zoloft after my doctor was asking me questions at a recent visit – where I ended up crying, totally unexpectedly. I was telling her how I felt like my heart would often race and that I often felt unsettled. She told me that I had an issue with anxiety. That took me by surprise, let me tell you.
  3. Low-grade nagging guilt. Feeling bad about myself. There are so many things that I know I’m supposed to do, but don’t do (or haven’t done yet). While I realize that nobody has it all together, I constantly feel like I don’t measure up.
  4. Financial debt. Not only are we holding credit card debt (again), but we are also not being faithful in giving regularly and sacrificially back to the Lord.
  5. Prayerlessness. Most of my prayers are when I am with others. At church. Or at mealtimes. I prayed a quick prayer with and for my son on the way to his job interview. Those quick ‘check-ins’ are my current prayer life. It has been a long time where I have had an honest, deep connection with my Lord.
  6. Excessive behavior. For me, I realize that I have taken my ‘downtime’ to be something that I convince myself that I deserve. Lots of TV time, lots of time browsing the internet and on social media, eating junk food. These things aren’t – in and of their own – bad. But, I have realized that these little things become an overall issue in my life as they are my crutch.

God focuses on relationships. That is another area of conviction for me. If it were not for Him putting really good (and patient) people in my life, I would likely be a total loner as I do not prioritize my relationships at all. I allow all of the ‘busyness’ of my life to crowd out the things that I would state are my priorities. In other words, my actions and behaviors do not accurately reflect my priorities.

The years of our life are seventy, or even by reason of strength eighty; yet their span is but toil and trouble; they are soon gone, and we fly away. Who considers the power of your anger, and your wrath according to the fear of you? So teach us to number our days that we may get a heart of wisdom. Psalm 90:10-12

My (Evolving) Mission Statement

The following is my heart’s desire. This is what I aim to be. Yet, I am still very much a work in progress.

As a believer, I am daily growing closer to my Lord. I listen, read, and learn more about Him each day.

 As a wife, I am patient and supportive. I value our relationship. I deliberately spend time listening and conversing with Ed. We spend one-on-one time on a regular basis and we enjoy each other’s company.

 As a mother, I am (almost) always available for my children. We have strong, healthy relationships. I am someone they can each count on. I show them how much I love them and we laugh together often.

 As a Virtual Assistant and Bookkeeper, I strive to always provide my clients my very best work. I am focused and aware of how to best serve. I am a leader amongst my peers. I never stop learning about how to improve.

 As a friend and a sibling, I make time to connect and value these relationships.

 As a bookkeeper/treasurer, I am diligent, timely, and efficient. I am a woman of my word.

 Overarching throughout these roles, I take care of myself and my health so that I am able to be the best me I can. I eat well, I exercise regularly, I stay hydrated by drinking plenty of water, and I get adequate rest.

Do you have a mission statement?